Al-Qur’anic Rules Concerning the Art of Peace

Life in this world is not always smooth and open. There are times when we walk on a sloping path, but not infrequently our feet trip over rocks, or are blocked by fallen branches. Such is life, full of color and full of trials.

And among the trials we experience in life are disputes or differences of opinion. Can be present at home, between husband and wife. It can grow in the environment of relatives or neighbors, thereby straining relationships. This can even creep into friendships and work relationships, clouding what was initially clear.

That’s why, Allah Knocking, with His grace and wisdom, revealed a great rule in the Qur’an, a principle that is an antidote to social wounds and binds broken relationships,

And harmony is better, and souls are carried away by stinginess.

“And peace is better (for them) even though humans are naturally stingy…” (QS. An-Nisa: 128)

This verse is not just advice, but a foundation for building and maintaining relationships. It becomes a solid foundation to repair what is broken, bring things closer to each other, and reunite scattered hearts.

In context, this verse talks about household life. When a wife feels that her husband is starting to pay less attention or is not fulfilling his rights, Islam does not encourage conflict. In fact, the Shari’a teaches a gentler path: ishlah (peace).

This includes an open-minded attitude, when the wife gives up some of her rights in order to maintain the integrity of the household.

Likewise, if the husband feels that there is something unpleasant about his wife or is being indifferent, then seeking peace is still the best choice. Not by raising your ego, but by being humble for the sake of mutual peace.

Allah Story confirming the continuation of this rule,

And if you do good and are afraid, then surely Allah knows what you do.

“And if you get along with your wife well and take care of yourself (from nusyuz and indifference), then verily Allah is All-Knowing of what you do.” (QS. An-Nisa: 128)

Peace will not be born without sacrifice. He demands to lower the ego, soften the heart, and give up some rights. But from that sacrifice, Allah promises goodness and blessings

This method “wa shulhu khair” does not only apply in the household space. It is a broad life principle, including relationships with neighbors, friends and co-workers. As explained by the ulama, this rule is a general guideline in responding to human disputes. (Look Al-Muharrar Al-Wajiz, 2: 141)

Short fuse: The fire that extinguishes peace

Not all arguments start from big problems. Many conflicts are actually born from emotions that cannot be calmed down, from a fuse that is too short, so that the fire of anger easily ignites.

A short fuse makes a person quickly ignited, irritable, and hasty in reacting. Sentences that should have been explained calmly turned into accusations. Advice that should set the record straight, actually feels like an attack. Finally, peace drifts away, not because it is impossible, but because the heart is too hot to approach.

Islam teaches that peace requires tolerance and patience. Rasulullah sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam set an example to promote peace, not foster anger. Because anger that is left unchecked will only increase the wound, whereas restraint (even though it is hard), is often the beginning of God’s mercy. Tax.

Allah Story said,

Believers are only brothers, so make peace between your brothers and fear Allah so that you may receive mercy.

“Believers are actually brothers. Therefore, make peace (improve relations) between your two brothers and fear Allah, so that you may receive mercy.” (QS. Al-Hujuraat: 10)

So, if we want to be part of the solution, reach out our hearts. Delay reactions, soften speech, and clarify meaning. Because peace is not born from a voice that is raised, but from a heart that is willing to humble itself.

Be a peacemaker

Not everyone is given the ability to unite the broken. Not all hearts are able to be present in the midst of conflict with the intention of improving it, not making it worse. In fact, when a relationship is at the end of a dispute, just one good intention can be the cause of God’s help.

Islam not only teaches to avoid arguments, but also encourages its followers to be peacemakers who are present as a coolant when emotions heat up, and as a liaison when hearts are far apart.

Allah Story said,

And if you are afraid that there will be a rift between them, then appoint a mediator from his family and a mediator from his family. If they desire reconciliation, God will reconcile them. God is All-Knowing, All-Knowing

“And if you are worried that there is a dispute between the two, then send someone referee (peacemaker) from a male family and one referee (peacemaker) from a female family. If both people referee This means that by making improvements, Allah will undoubtedly give taufik to the husband and wife. Indeed, Allah is All-Knowing, All-Knowing.” (QS. An-Nisa: 35)

This verse shows that peace is a joint project, not just two people’s business. When the conflict can no longer be resolved by the disputing party, Islam opens up space for the presence of a third party, not as a judge who sentences, but as referee peacemaker who makes amends.

Note one important condition that Allah mentioned: “If both of them intend to make amends.”

That means success ishlah really depends on straight intentions. If what is brought is the desire to win, defend one’s ego, or embarrass one party, then peace will be difficult to achieve. However, if the intention is sincere, Allah Himself promises His taufik.

When someone is gifted with this noble morals (happy to make peace), he will feel easy to do ishlah (peace and repair). He is not reluctant to give in, is not busy calculating his rights, and is not imprisoned by prestige. Different from people who are stingy in spirit; he finds it difficult to accept peace because he feels that there is always something being taken away, there is always something that is not being fulfilled. (Look Tafsir As-Sa’di, matter. 207)

No wonder God Story gives special praise to people who work for peace. In His words it is stated,

There is no goodness in most of their secret conversations, except for those who command alms, kindness, or harmony between people, and whoever does it. Seeking Allah’s pleasure, We will give him a great reward.

“There is no goodness in most of their whispers, except the whispers of those who tell (people) to give alms, or do good deeds, or make peace between people. And whoever does that because he seeks Allah’s pleasure, then We will give him a great reward.” (QS. An-Nisa: 114)

Maybe, through one small step we are already in ishlah, Allah sends down His mercy, reunites hearts that are almost broken, and writes down for us a great reward.

A piece of the Prophet’s story Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam in peace

Peace is not just a theory in Islam. He lives, moves, and is manifested in the example of the Prophet. In his daily life, we find beautiful examples of how peace takes precedence over protecting the ego, and how the integrity of relationships is maintained with wisdom and generosity.

First, the story of his wife Ummul Mukminin Saudah bintu Zam’ah who was getting older and she was worried when the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam divorce him. He told stories and communicated with the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam so that she remains his wife and makes peace by giving her daily ration to Aisyah Radiyallahu ‘anha. Finally, she remained the Prophet’s wife sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam until the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam died.

Second, the story of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam meet the people of Quba. He received news that some of them were fighting, some were even throwing stones at each other. Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said to his friend,

Come with us, and we will reconcile them

“Let us go to make peace between them.” (HR. Bukhari)

If we open the pages of history, we will find many stories and examples of the persistence of previous people in reconciling people who were at odds.

All of this teaches us one thing: making peace is the path of noble people.

Can lie to make peace

Umm Kulthum bint ‘Uqbah bin ‘Abi Mu’aythin, she was one of the first women to emigrate and pledge allegiance to the Prophet Muhammad SAW. sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam. He reported that he heard the Messenger of Allah sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said,

A liar is a person who reconciles fellow humans, says good things, and advocates good things.

“He is not called a liar if he aims to reconcile the parties in conflict where he says something good or says something good (in order to reconcile the parties in conflict, -pen).” (HR. Bukhari and Muslim)

Ibn Shihab said, “I have never heard of anyone who permits lying except in three cases,

War and reconciliation between people, a man’s conversation with his wife, and a woman’s conversation with her husband

“War, reconciling people who are at odds, and the husband’s words to his wife or wife to her husband (with the aim of bringing goodness to the household).” (HR. Muslim)

Al-Hafizh Ibn Hajar God bless said that scholars agree that what is meant by lying between husband and wife is a lie that does not invalidate obligations or take something that is not rightfully theirs. (Look Fathul Bari, 5: 300)

God willing Story make us among His servants who lightly step towards peace, as commanded by Allah Story and the example of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam.

Also read: Reconciling the Relationship between Two Enemy People

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Writer: Arif Muhammad Nurwijaya

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Reference:

It’s a lifestyle, by Sheikh Dr. Umar bin Abdullah al-Muqbil.